Collateral Damage Claims a New Generation

A few days ago I received a very strange and very young sounding comment on this blog. The comment was held for moderation as all commentors are the first time they appear here. I have not approved the comment and will not do so due to what I perceive to the be the age of the commenter (very young).

What I find curious and ultimately very sad is that the commenter claimed to be a grandchild of Seymour Kurtz, owner of the Kurtz network of baby brokers.  By viewing my stats, I was able to confirm the person googled a Kurtz network employee name (perhaps his mother?) and found my blog.  Their traffic came from Chicago, the heart of the Kurtz network. Based on these facts and the content of the comment, I believe the comment to be legit.

The individual was offended by this post and was quite defensive of Seymour Kurtz.

While I feel no love for Kurtz and those that have carried out his work of separating mother from child, I must admit I feel for this person, whom I envision to be a tween or preteen (based on the verbiage).

Can you imagine growing up thinking that grandpa is all rainbows and sunshine and then discovering via the internet unpleasant things about dear grand dad? The child was clearly in a state of disbelief and suggested I was making up “mean” stories about him. 

Not that I need to defend myself, but I want to note, again, that all I have stated here on this blog and elsewhere is a matter of public record and those records go far beyond my own experience and blog. Dr. Bernadette Wright’s body of work on the Kurtz Network (recently posted to ehbabes.com) contains all the necessary references  and source citations for my claims and more. 

To the little one that found this blog, I offer my compassion.

To Seymour himself, I offer the age old sentiment of “what goes around comes around.”  While you may never pay for the crimes you have committed against so many mothers and children, it appears they have the capacity to demand payment from your gene pool. How sad for them.

Ah, karma.

Trends and 2010 Top Posts [Dorky Data]

I enjoy the practice of reviewing your blog for the past year and noting its top posts. For me it gives me much insight into myself, specifically where I have been and where I might be headed.  It also gives me an opportunity to recycle posts visitors may not have had a chance to read.

In compiling my top posts, I reviewed stats for 2010.  To develop the trends, I reviewed my archives. I paid particular attention to the # of posts by month.  I entered the data into an excel spreadsheet and the chart below was produced.  I find this data interesting. Draw your own conclusions.

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Top Posts In Order of Popularity
(with abstracts and links to full post)

Approach with Caution
Easter House former director friends me on Facebook. I accept and later refuse.

About
My About Me page. Oddly popular this year (and it clearly needs to be updated).

Ugly Truths
A post following my presenting at the St. Johns Adoption Conference wherein a social worker from Illinois points out that since my daughters adoptive parents used state lottery winnings to pay the agency fee to adopt her that my daughter has LOTS of adoptive parents, namely all those that bought lottery tickets in her adopted home state. Still makes me feel sick to the stomach.

Pre Conference Ramblings + Jitters
A short rambling post about my conference jitters.  No idea why this post was popular.

Yeah, huh?
A simple picture post about letting go.

Decreased Reunions
An explanation for the decreased # of reunions for the members of ehbabes.com

Comforting an 18 Year Old
My niece moves to Seattle and family reactions to her move trigger the hurt 18 year old inside of me.

Fourteen
My mothers decision to indirectly “out” herself as the grandmother to my daughter on Facebook. Followed by commentary on Facebook and adoption “outings” on same.

Witty and Pretty and Gay
I discovered and later shared the fact that my daughter, whom I have not held since the third day of her life, outted herself on the internet at bi, queer, gay, well, whatever word you use.

Amazing Race
Sharing my discomfort over the mother/daughter reunited pair on one of my favorite shows, The Amazing Race.