14 Thoughts.

  1. Interesting. I was in this ‘space’ – like your quote – the other day. But then I thought…what about faith. What does faith mean and how does that affect letting go of things hoped for…and things that we view as impossible?

    And when reading your quote here…while some things definitely need ‘letting go of’, can’t we also have faith and believe for the impossible to BE possible?

    Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. I think that the impossible can be the possible.

  2. I can’t say whether or not letting go is the right thing to do. But I CAN say that I’m still hoping that some day things change.

    I can’t help it.

  3. I lean towards thinking one needs to let go, change expectations etc. For many things one hopes for is a change in the other person and we need to learn we can never change another. Only ourselves. Greatest thing I ever did for myself was to realize my dad would never be the dad I wanted/needed. I stopped dreaming of what I did not have and accepted what I did.

  4. Really good, Suz re: expectations. The best advice (mainly for work stuff) I was given was to manage people’s expectations – including myself. Your acceptance of your dad for what he wasn’t, reminded me of something Oprah said on Friday…she said, “Forgiveness is giving up the hope, that the past could have been any different.” Acceptance kinda leads to ‘letting go’. Hmmm…I need to think on this. Very pertinent for me at the moment.

  5. “Sucks” is an understatement. How does one move from obsession with the “hope” that “it” might happen, to just accepting that whether it does or not, I can be okay with letting go. To be able to accecpt with oneself that to move to “letting go” does not mean that I don’t love or care, it just means I set them free and give myself permission to not expect anything from them or hope for anything like a “real adult” relationship ever. How does one survive the grief that arises looking that truth square in the face, and come out of it without being deeply changed at the core of who one is? How does one accept hopelessness in relation to loving someone because they are a part of you on a cellular level, but accepting that they are intent on letting you know that you mean nothing to them?

    • No surprise Liz, I understand and agree. Interestingly, your comment supports two more quotes I found that I like that are kinda related. Will post in separate post.

  6. The heart will always be stronger than the mind. You can move forward but knowing what I have read about you as a mother I doubt you will ever be able to completely fan the flame of hope when it comes to your child just as I know I would never be able to do the same!
    Hoping for the impossible to become possible for you!

  7. For me, everything is woven so tightly. I keep trying to let go – not only of expectations but of the hatred, the rage, the whole ugliness of adoption in my life. But, it’s all so embedded that it’s just beyond me. If I let go, I’ll come apart completely. So, I’d really like to believe that there is a God that can step in – or that the Universe has something better to offer because I just don’t want to live like this.

    • Lynn – Your statement of “if I let go I will fall apart completely”.

      I am not sure if you intended it the way I took it but am going to blog about it and then you can comment. Bottom line is I think I agree with you – and yet I dont want to.

      More to come.


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