I donâ€™t have much to say about it. It wasn’t awful. In fact, it was probably brutally honest, only another adoptive mother would know for sure. I found the main character annoying and whiny. I resented the fact the entire book referred to expectant mothers as birth mothers. You aren’t a birth mother until AFTER you have surrendered and even then you are only so if you view yourself that way.
I had visceral reactions to the agency professionals portrayed in the book. (And really, Smith Chasen? Why not just spell out Spence Chapin). The books perpetuates the crackwhore scammer birth mother myth. For a few pages it Â made me want to revisit my essay proposal based on my Scam I AmÂ post to show that the same sorts of things happen to other members of the adoption plane.
A twitter friend asked me if the book ended with the PAPâ€™s â€œwinningâ€ (interesting choice of words). Presumably, yes, they did but that is not covered. It appears to end when they are matched.
I have not listened to the NPR interview of the author/adoptive parent. I am not sure I will.
I do recommend this book for expectant mothers considering surrendering their child to open or closed adoption. It gives a VERY interesting and disturbing look into what happens to PAPs and what agencies do and say.
I am now reading another book that is hitting much closer to home â€“ Then I Found You.
Gulp. I am probably only twenty percent into it and I have twice had to put it down due to being choked up with tears. Too many parallels between me and my life and the protagonist, Kate.
Has anyone read this latest book? Â Would love to know your thoughts if you have.