Many of the natural mothers I know have complicated relationships with their own mothers. Addd adoption loss to it and we can also have complicated relationships with our children, both those surrendered and parented. I was fortunate early in my sons younger years to have a therapist that brought this to my attention. It is a topic I have worked on for many years. Healing my mother wound.
I recently began re-reading Adrienne Rich’s Of Woman Born. I encourage all to read it. I am a HUGE fan of Rich and have been since I was in my freshman year of college studying English and Creative Writing.
You can get it here as well as other places. Do let me know if you have read it and what your thoughts are.