While I take a day or so to collect my thoughts on the one day I attended of AAC 2015 I offer the following suggestion. Â If you have not already seen this movie, Closure – A Documentary About Adoption, Â I encourage you. I watched it yesterday right after returning from the conference. Â Would love to hear your thoughts. Â Interesting discussion on my twitter feed today regarding same.
It is now on NetFlix and Hulu. Â Angela Tucker spoke at AAC as part of The Lost Daughters panel. Â View trailer below or visit the film site for more info.
Thanks Suz. I added it to my Netflix list and will watch it hopefully tonight…I’ll let you know and appreciate your recommendation.
I watched Closure on Saturday, I found it to be very powerful and wish that everyone ~ not just those already involved in adoption ~ could watch it and see how deep the wounds of adoption go.
*spoiler alert*
As a mom of adoption loss, I of course found myself identifying with Angela’s natural mom. I completely understood her reasoning for denying who she was when she was first approached by Angela and her family. As a mom, I was broken hearted to see that even though knowing her natural mom wanted their first meeting to be just the two of them, their first meeting was still in a huge group of people, Angela’s adoptive family included. I had really hoped that at least the first hellos and minutes would have been privately between just the two of them.
Susie – This is a common desire. I have always dreamed that if my daughter ever granted me a face to face that it could be just me and her, in a coffee shop/book store with great wine and coffee. I would never, have never, wanted her adoptive mom or anyone else there. My daughter is approaching 30. I would HOPE that if she ever does consider meeting me she would do it alone.
That being said, I know it is common for adoptees to need a stabling life raft. They need an anchor to their adopted life to fall back on. I have had adoptee friends bring boyfriends, husbands and girlfriends. I might, emphasis on might , be okay with that. I suspect I would be so blinded by her willingness to meet I might put aside my own desires….which could be good or bad.