There IS only grace.

“Like any other gift, the gift of grace can be yours only if you’ll reach out and take it. Maybe being able to reach out and take it is a gift too.” – Unknown

An adoptee friend on my facebook shared this song/video with me. It moved me to tears. She stated when she first heard it the first few lyrics made her think of me.  When I listened to it, reflecting on her words, it made me gasp for air.

Validation, love, support, understanding goes a long long way with me.   When you have had none, when you have been at your most vulnerable and with child, when all who are supposed to love you discard you and your child, well, the reverse feeling can be quite powerful.

Adoption has caused many bad things in my life. It damaged me, my marriage, my subsquent children, all the relationships in my life.

Yet oddly, in many ways it has also helped. It has given me love, support and understanding from the most unexpected places.

Thank you friend. You know who you are. And thanks to all of you this coming Thanksgiving week in the US. Those that read here, support me, comment constructively and with love, I am thankful for you. You help me to survive the biggest loss and greatest trauma in my life.

You are my grace.


8 Thoughts.

  1. Thank you for the post! Powerful stuff. My son and I are reunited and working on a relationship but it is very hard when he is missing from the table this week….
    Grace has gotten me this far and I know it will carry me through.
    Bless you this week and all year.

  2. Thank you for such a great post! As always the words you say have touched me! You have helped so many of us more than you will ever understand!

    Have a great night:)

    Hugs, Summer

  3. Suz,

    Beautiful post, even more beautiful song. I have much to be thankful for on this first Thanksgiving since being reunited with my son. I am thankful for you & the other birthmom/first moms out there in blog land that have helped me through this roller-coaster ride of reunion & coming out of deep denial regarding the loss of my son to adoption.

    So, right back at you! “I am thankful for you. You help me to survive the biggest loss and greatest trauma in my life. You are my grace.”


  4. I am grateful to you and the other firstmom and adoptee bloggers that I read and learn from.

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