How many times have you as a mother or child separated by adoption been told “You seem like a very angry person and if you just learned to release that anger you would see the path.â€ Â Â I have lost count how many times over the years I have been told these things from all members of our community. Usually it is adoptive parents but I have heard same from adoptees as well as mothers like me. My blog, my pain, my grieving makes them uncomfortable. They want me to conform to their way of thinking so they can be more comfortable. Â My own daughter has expressed her desire for me to “please stop talking about this”.
If you are or were an adoption blogger, how many times have you been told you were “bitter” or “stuck” when you shared your adoption related grief?
Do these sentiments resonate with you and your experience? Â If so, I implore you to read Tim Lawrence latest blog post Grieving People Aren’t Stupid.Â It is worth the read.
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