I no unnastand

Great ideas often receive violent opposition from mediocre minds. – Albert Einstien

My Polish gramma was often heard saying "I no unnastand" when she did not understand something. Her English comprehension wasnt always the greatest but she certainly was.

I was reminded of her today when I read a few blogs. Things I certainly dont understand.

I find it so intriguing that pro-life fanatics, often the same individuals who are so gung-ho on adoption, believe that life begins with conception. YET, same individuals give no credence to the fact that the life existed before the child was adopted. They adamantly seriously insist this. Huh?

The phrase that “your life began the day you were adopted” is often heard. Nothing before that matters…say what? I am confused. I thought life began at conception? Or was that birth? Now its adopted? Huh? Since I was not adopted, does that mean I am not alive? Wasnt born?

And here is another lovely quote from blogs “bloom where you are planted” (said to an adoptee). Um, okay, well that’s an easy one too. Since you are “planted” in your mothers womb, it would seem to me that you would bloom with that mother. Sure, you can transplant the child, replace the mother, but will you get the same growth as you would if the organism grew where it was indeed planted? Where mother nature intended it to be before the laws and morals of man intervened? And what type of medical marvels and medications are needed to sustain the transplant?

And dont give me that hooha about bad natural parents and better adoptive parents and Little Susie having a dog, a Beamer and a  college education. If you put a plant in the sun when it was meant to grow in the shade, you can sprinkle all your wonderful rays of sunshine and it can still die or it can be a different version of the original. It can adapt. But it is not the same.


To those people I say what Abe Lincoln said:

"’Tis better to be silent and be thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt."

3 Thoughts.

  1. I agree Suz and I hope many men read this and take seriously with whom they plant their seed because they are needed, in my opinion, to nurture the person who carries their child, as well as meet the needs of the child when he/she is born.

  2. amen. or what about those stupid t-shirts they sell for adparents that say “pregnant on paper” or for the kids, shirts that say, “i grew in my mommy’s heart”. as if nothing before that mattered. if it weren’t for us natural mothers, they wouldn’t even be here. i want and need to believe there are ad-parents out there who foster and nurture a child’s natural interest in their natural family. my child’s adfamily has squashed it, and i believe, will continue to do so.

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