A young lady, expectant mother, I am currently helping obtain some options counseling shared this with me when I asked her what she had told her extended family.
â€œI told them I was going to keep it because deep down I want to. I’m just afraid my child will grow up with only a mother and he makes me feel like its the worst decision in the world to keep it.”
While both sentences tugged at my heart and made me choke up, the phrase â€œonly a motherâ€ deeply saddened me.
What is so wrong with being raised by only your mother?
This young expectant mother clearly wants to raise her baby but feels she can only do that if the father is on board with the idea. Interestingly, his only position is abortion. He wonâ€™t discuss keeping or adoption with her. He just wants the problem solved.
I am hoping to help her understand that many adoptees would have been very happy to be raised by only a motherâ€¦only their original mother. More importantly, I am attempting to get her to trust her own instincts, make her own decision and look for options that support that decision.