Comments on: State of IL Files Suit Against ANLC https://writingmywrongs.com/2013/10/30/2685/ Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities. - Voltaire Thu, 05 Dec 2013 21:08:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.7 By: Jay Iyer https://writingmywrongs.com/2013/10/30/2685/#comment-39156 Mon, 04 Nov 2013 21:29:51 +0000 https://writingmywrongs.com/?p=2685#comment-39156 I am so glad Illinois is taking action against this travesty.

]]> By: Gail https://writingmywrongs.com/2013/10/30/2685/#comment-39037 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 20:40:58 +0000 https://writingmywrongs.com/?p=2685#comment-39037 Oh yes – I definitely felt like you did. While I know that excellent social workers and counselors exist, I have very little trust for these folks in general. I had a recent experience with a counselor here in Illinois that was exceptionally negative and reconfirmed my beliefs. The counselor willingly took my money and didn’t deliver on any of her promises. I felt lied to and duped!

]]> By: Suz Bednarz https://writingmywrongs.com/2013/10/30/2685/#comment-38993 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:26:50 +0000 https://writingmywrongs.com/?p=2685#comment-38993 Gail, I completely understand (despite my situation was years later) the naivete, gullible-ness and trust. We believed those that loved us, those that allegedly knew better than us, more educated, more religious, more everything really knew better and had our best interests at heart. It is a rude awakening to learn how we allowed ourselves to be so duped. I don’t know about you but it really shook me to my core when I discovered the lies and made me trust everyone even less.

I wrote more about this fostering topic in these two older posts.

Fostering Lies and
Why Fostering

]]> By: Gail https://writingmywrongs.com/2013/10/30/2685/#comment-38992 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 00:39:35 +0000 https://writingmywrongs.com/?p=2685#comment-38992 Suz, I was never told anything about foster care. As crazy as this sounds, I’m not sure that I was aware that such a thing even existed. Looking back, I was a very naive, gullible and trusting teenager. Ironically, it was my daughter who ended up telling me about foster care. What happened to you, me and millions like us is just so unbelievable.

]]> By: Suz Bednarz https://writingmywrongs.com/2013/10/30/2685/#comment-38990 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 23:29:03 +0000 https://writingmywrongs.com/?p=2685#comment-38990 Too many moms were threatened with that foster care stick. Only to find out our kids really ended up in foster care after all. I happen to know the family that fostered my daughter because I helped THEIR adopted daughter find her mother. I remember feeling very very ill when I found out that the foster care was used in my daughters case. I learned far too late that all placements are foster placements for 6 months to a year. I say if we are going to have the adoptive parents “foster” why not let the first mom “foster” her own child for that time period. Ha. Yes. I realize then she would bond and that would make her change her mind. Exactly my point. Longer periods before moms can surrender. Require them to parent for a parent of time. Only then can they truly know what they lose. You certainly dont know when you are signing from the hospital bed, clad in johnny coat (as I was), three days post partum.

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