Comments on: Interview with Second-Chance Mother Author Denise Roessle https://writingmywrongs.com/2011/11/28/interview-with-second-chance-mother-author-denise-roessle/ When a mother is forced to choose between the child and the culture, there is something abhorrently cruel and unconsidered about that culture. A culture that requires harm to one's soul in order to follow the cultures prescriptions is a very sick culture indeed. This 'culture' can be the one a woman lives in, but more damning yet, it can be the one she carries around and complies with within her own mind....." -- Women Who Run With The Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes Mon, 12 Mar 2012 11:47:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Denise https://writingmywrongs.com/2011/11/28/interview-with-second-chance-mother-author-denise-roessle/#comment-8263 Denise Sat, 10 Dec 2011 17:43:40 +0000 https://writingmywrongs.com/?p=1851#comment-8263 Melynda, Naomi is 15 now and, against all odds, has matured into a bright, considerate and loving young woman. She makes good choices, despite her father's model. I like to think that my presence in her life, even though not constant, had something to do with that (as has her stepmother, Jenn's). When she was younger, she was deeply impacted by everything her father did and it was painful to watch. Not so much anymore; she seems to understand who he is and handles it well. Because she is beautiful and "built," and still needy of attention and love, I worry that she'll fall prey to men and get pregnant too young. If that happens though, she'll have support that I didn't and be able to keep her baby. As for wishing I'd taken her when I had the chance... oh yes, I doubted my decision many times over the years. My reasoning then was that Josh not lose/abandon another child and that Naomi not lose her father, as well as her mother (who is in and out, not reliable). I think that in the end it was best that Josh and Naomi stayed together. Thank you for your question. I think I'll elaborate in a post on my blog, since many other might wonder. Melynda, Naomi is 15 now and, against all odds, has matured into a bright, considerate and loving young woman. She makes good choices, despite her father’s model. I like to think that my presence in her life, even though not constant, had something to do with that (as has her stepmother, Jenn’s). When she was younger, she was deeply impacted by everything her father did and it was painful to watch. Not so much anymore; she seems to understand who he is and handles it well. Because she is beautiful and “built,” and still needy of attention and love, I worry that she’ll fall prey to men and get pregnant too young. If that happens though, she’ll have support that I didn’t and be able to keep her baby.

As for wishing I’d taken her when I had the chance… oh yes, I doubted my decision many times over the years. My reasoning then was that Josh not lose/abandon another child and that Naomi not lose her father, as well as her mother (who is in and out, not reliable). I think that in the end it was best that Josh and Naomi stayed together.

Thank you for your question. I think I’ll elaborate in a post on my blog, since many other might wonder.

]]> By: Melynda https://writingmywrongs.com/2011/11/28/interview-with-second-chance-mother-author-denise-roessle/#comment-8261 Melynda Sat, 10 Dec 2011 15:47:33 +0000 https://writingmywrongs.com/?p=1851#comment-8261 Denise - I finished your book yesterday afternoon. I found it to be an enlightening, albeit difficult, read about reunion, adoption, and mothering our lost children. Interestingly, out of all the people in the book, I was most profoundly affected by Naomi's story, your granddaughter. Do you ever wish you would have taken her in when your son first offered you the chance to do so? Has she been able to endure her early losses? I am so intensely curious as to how things have played out in her life. Can you tell me more? Denise – I finished your book yesterday afternoon. I found it to be an enlightening, albeit difficult, read about reunion, adoption, and mothering our lost children. Interestingly, out of all the people in the book, I was most profoundly affected by Naomi’s story, your granddaughter. Do you ever wish you would have taken her in when your son first offered you the chance to do so? Has she been able to endure her early losses? I am so intensely curious as to how things have played out in her life. Can you tell me more?

]]> By: Denise https://writingmywrongs.com/2011/11/28/interview-with-second-chance-mother-author-denise-roessle/#comment-8242 Denise Thu, 08 Dec 2011 15:56:14 +0000 https://writingmywrongs.com/?p=1851#comment-8242 Thanks to all for your kind comments. Writing the book was cathartic in many ways, deciding to publish it came from wanting to help others. The paperback will be out in January 2012 at the latest. It will also be available on Amazon and B&N. Anyone who wants to be notified when it's out can email me at denise at secondchancemother dot com. Thanks to all for your kind comments. Writing the book was cathartic in many ways, deciding to publish it came from wanting to help others. The paperback will be out in January 2012 at the latest. It will also be available on Amazon and B&N. Anyone who wants to be notified when it’s out can email me at denise at secondchancemother dot com.

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