beings look separate because you see them walking about separately. But
then we are so made that we can see only the present moment. If we
could see the past, then of course it would look different. For there
was a time when every man was part of his mother, and (earlier still)
part of his father as well, and when they were part of his
grandparents. If you could see humanity spread out in time, as God sees
it, it would look like one single growing thing–rather like a very
complicated tree. Every individual would appear connected with every
– C. S. Lewis
One of my cousins has gotten into ancestry and has traced my mothers side of the family back to the 1600's in Ireland and Scotland. It is interesting and amusing to review cuz I am, well, kinda into that stuff. It will get even more interesting soon.
She has given me and my siblings edit access to add ourselves and our families.
You know where this is going right?
Of course I am going to list her there. She is my child. She is, to me, my family. I realize she says otherwise and members of my own family may say otherwise but there is no refuting it – legally or morally – in my opinion. She is my child.
I will eventually add her and my sons and such to my our family tree. For now, I am stuck on one point.
How do I list my daughter? Do I put her original name? Her amended name? Do I not put a name and just put daughter? How does ancestry handle adoption? What is appropriate from her perspective?
I expect some sort of commentary from the family (that has never ever openly discussed my daughter with me) when they see her listed there. Even if they comment to me, I am quite sure they will gossip behind my back.
You know what?
I don't give a rats ass.
She can deny me. They can deny her.
I will not play that game.