https://writingmywrongs.com/2008/08/22/emma/ Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities. - Voltaire Sun, 21 Aug 2011 05:59:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 https://writingmywrongs.com/2008/08/22/emma/#comment-5442 Kimberley Wed, 17 Nov 2010 16:13:02 +0000 https://writingmywrongs.com/2008/08/22/emma/#comment-5442 Hello, I couldn't believe what I was reading...incredibly sad. I am an adoptive mother of three, and I find your blog to be very honest, although I will admit, at times, hard to read. I have had several people ask me how much my children cost. My usual response is (through gritted teeth) "What do YOURS cost you"? I would like to think, perhaps naively, that MOST people are referring to agency fees, etc. and do not mean to be so insensitive and rude. However, I have NEVER heard of an adoptive parent saying such a thing. In front of their child no less--I have no words for that. Sick. Anyway--I wanted to let you know that I stumbled on your blog by accident, but am glad I did. While I am sorry for what you have gone through, I appreciate your honesty and candor. Take care, ~Kim Hello,
I couldn’t believe what I was reading…incredibly sad. I am an adoptive mother of three, and I find your blog to be very honest, although I will admit, at times, hard to read.
I have had several people ask me how much my children cost. My usual response is (through gritted teeth) “What do YOURS cost you”? I would like to think, perhaps naively, that MOST people are referring to agency fees, etc. and do not mean to be so insensitive and rude. However, I have NEVER heard of an adoptive parent saying such a thing. In front of their child no less–I have no words for that. Sick.
Anyway–I wanted to let you know that I stumbled on your blog by accident, but am glad I did. While I am sorry for what you have gone through, I appreciate your honesty and candor.
Take care,
~Kim

]]> https://writingmywrongs.com/2008/08/22/emma/#comment-2646 Just Me Sun, 11 Apr 2010 08:10:00 +0000 https://writingmywrongs.com/2008/08/22/emma/#comment-2646 Speaking from experience, the trend in Asian American adoption has a milieu of hidden repercussions. It's not healthy to grow up Asian (or any non-white race) raised by whites. It's sad and disgusting to grow up being fetishized, primarily by ones own adopted relatives. More often than not, those white relatives can't help themselves, it's just part of the reality of life. I think I speak for all interracial adoptees when I say we feel ripped away from our racial identity from childhood, forced to look upon the culture that is our birthright as an exotic and utterly unobtainable object. We can't be white, but we can't be the race we actually come from either. Plus, we're damned to be classified/identified/stereotyped by a race we have been amputated from. All this said, Suz, I wouldn't change my particular fate to live with my original mother, but mine is a special case as you know. Speaking from experience, the trend in Asian American adoption has a milieu of hidden repercussions. It’s not healthy to grow up Asian (or any non-white race) raised by whites. It’s sad and disgusting to grow up being fetishized, primarily by ones own adopted relatives. More often than not, those white relatives can’t help themselves, it’s just part of the reality of life. I think I speak for all interracial adoptees when I say we feel ripped away from our racial identity from childhood, forced to look upon the culture that is our birthright as an exotic and utterly unobtainable object. We can’t be white, but we can’t be the race we actually come from either. Plus, we’re damned to be classified/identified/stereotyped by a race we have been amputated from. All this said, Suz, I wouldn’t change my particular fate to live with my original mother, but mine is a special case as you know.

]]> https://writingmywrongs.com/2008/08/22/emma/#comment-2622 Jade Wed, 15 Oct 2008 18:24:11 +0000 https://writingmywrongs.com/2008/08/22/emma/#comment-2622 I could barely read your post because I am a first mother to a daughter named Emma. Seeing her name or hearing it anywhere still makes my head turn. People have such a long way to go in understanding what adoption really entails. I could barely read your post because I am a first mother to a daughter named Emma. Seeing her name or hearing it anywhere still makes my head turn. People have such a long way to go in understanding what adoption really entails.

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