"Emotions are often thought to infringe on our rationality and better judgment. While listening to our instincts and responding to our passions can work in favor of our interests, they are also easily exploited by for influence professionals because emotions affect us so deeply, instantaneously, and indelibly." – The Science of Social Influence â€“ Anthony Pratkanis
A highly educated (as in PhD) first mom friend of mine was recently asked by her childs adoptive mother how it was that such a highly educated woman could have been pressured into surrendering her child.
I will be candid.
I find this to be a dumb ass question.
Besides the fact that the PhD came years after the loss of her child to the adoption industry, ones intellectual prowess has no correlation (in my opinion) to being able to fight the forces that work against a young expectant mother.
Knowing the pythagoream theorem is of very little value when you are sent away, isolated, lied to and manipulated at sixteen years old. If anything, being a smart girl makes your child more in demand and the pressures exerted upon you even greater. Society has lead many to believe that girls with "potential" should abandon their babies where girls without that same potential are better off keeping. (Also known as smart white girls dont qualify for social welfare but dumb minorities do, right? WRONG!)
Please dont ask such questions.
Suggesting that an intellectual woman would not surrender her child perpetuates the myth that only stupid, idiot, crack whores abandon their children to strangers. Furthermore, it is, to me, another futile attempt to justify separating mother and child. It suggests that since a woman was intelligent she somehow gladly or willingly abandoned her child. It suggests she knew what she was doing and might have actually had control over the situation. (I wonder why those moms that were drugged and strapped to beds did not pull out their best MacGyver move and get themselves out of that situation?)
The American Adoption industry is an equal opportunity family destroyer.
It does not discriminate on the basis of race, color, gender, religion, age, sexual orientation, intellect, national or ethnic origin, disability, marital status, veteran status, or any other seemingly irrelevant criteria.