"Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts." – Buddhist saying
Shared with a friend:
When you, as first mother in reunion, are viciously attacked by your child’s adoptive mother, don’t attack back. Be the stronger person. Do not stoop to their level. Realize nasty adoptive parents often speak from a place of fear and anger and insecurity. To retain their perceived position they need to push you back down and keep you in yours.
Do not become hostile towards the adoptive parent and leave your child with two nasty parents.
Be the better person. Do it for you and for your child. Trust that your child will be able to see that nasty adoptive parent behavior and will appreciate that you do not engage. The only person the adoptive parent makes look bad when they behave like that is themselves.
As a wise mother once told me, trust the connection.
Treat your child like an adult human being and not like property to be fought over.
I have to believe they will appreciate it.