"But the mother and child reu-nion
Is only a motion away, oh, little darling of mine."
– Paul Smon
Two of my closest natural mom friends have made significant progress in relation to their reunions.
One mom has been approached by the aMom and asked for a meeting. Their shared son is not yet 13. My friend is anxious with excitement. I am quite confident she will do just fine. She is a wonderful strong caring woman. She is an angel on earth to me and one of the greatest survivors I have ever met. She inspires me daily.
Mom Number Two found her son on Friday and is meeting him today. Today is his birthday. Her first contact with him was via phone and she wished him Happy Birthday for the first time since they parted. She spoke with his aMom and aMom invited first mom down to have birthday dinner with them!!! They are six hours apart. My friend is now driving to see her son for the first time in many years.
I am so happy for both my friends for this amazing progress they both have or will make. I am so impressed with their strength and direct approach.
Naturally, with the yin comes the yang for me.
I am envious of their success and questioning my own approach once again.
I have never spoken to my daughter on the phone. We have never met face to face. She made it clear from the beginning of our correspondence three years ago she did not want to meet and I never pushed. It has been two years since I have suggested meeting or talking. My belief is that I was respecting a boundary. That pushing or demanding meeting or talking was not appropriate.
I cannot help but wonder if she puts up walls not to keep people out but to see who is strong enough to break them down? Did I make a mistake?
Regardless, three cheers for my two friends with their pending reunions. Love you both!