â€œWhen a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that four of his fingers are pointing at himself.â€ – Louis Nizer
I know I have a number of male readers here. There is a great first dad in Montana, another in Maine. There is an adoptive dad in PA. There may be more.
I want their thoughts (of course females are welcome to comment too but I am really after the male perspective).
Why are men so easily disregarded when it comes to their children and the loss of their children to adoption?
Is it as simple as the fact that the woman carries the child?
Why does society find it so acceptable for men to NOT take responsbility for the children they produce?
If a young girl is called a whore and slut for having sex with a boy, why is he not called the same? If we punish the girl by taking her child, why not say, oh, castrate the man? (Extreme I know but I am going for shock value).
I realize in many cases the fathers did not even know their children existed. I also know in many cases their mothers parents took over and the father was pushed aside.
Why is this allowed?
If you are a the father to a daughter who is single and expecting, why havent you gone after the father or his family? And by gone after, I mean, expect him to support your daughter and the child they created? Why is he allowed to get off scot- free (if that is the case) and you and your daughter bear all responsbility?
I have my own thoughts on this but and they are expansive but I dont want to seed the soil with my own perspective. (And yeah, Dawn, I expect you to pipe up here even if you lack a Y chromosome)
I dont necessarily want fact, research, feminist citations. I want to know what the MEN feel and think about adoption, unplanne d pregnancies, etc.
So men, what say you?