"Restoration of the breach between the traumatized person and the community depends, first, upon public acknowledgement of the traumatic event and, second, upon some form of community action. Once it is publicly recognized that a person has been harmed, the community must take action to assign responsibility for the harm and to repair the injury. These two responsesâ€”recognition and restitutionâ€”are necessary to rebuild the survivorâ€™s sense of order and justice." – Herman, Judith, M.D. Trauma and Recovery. New York: Basic, 1992, 1997: 69, 70
I couldnâ€™t watch this show last night. It was way too triggering. I still feel sick from the few minutes I saw via channel surfing. I have thoughts but they are malformed and raw.
One thing that really perplexes me:
Why was unplanned pregnancy and adoption on a show titled FAMILY SECRETS? Whatâ€™s the secret? The pregnancy? Or the adoption?
What kind of subliminal message does that send? That adoption and single motherhood are things that should be shrouded in secrecy? Or that you should be ashamed of?
Yes, I have more opinions but I am still recovering from seeing that poor mother crying her heart out and everyone around her was telling her the trauma she was experiencing was a good thing. I wanted to stab that caseworker in the eyeballs as she was trying to pull the mom back to her PREBIRTH plan. She seemed to be steering her away from feeling things that may have lead her to change her mind. Very real, deep, motherly feelings that she should have been feeling.
I wonder what they would have done if she was bleeding to death in front of them? Would that be a good thing? Why is emotional trauma so easily disregarded?