Grief Observed Indeed

I read C. S. Lewis book Grief Observed last night. Have you read it? I recommend to anyone struggling with grief over adoption and lack of adoption reunion. While Lewis writes it in relation to the death of his wife, I found I could relate to many of his sentiments. I shared a few of them in this previous post.

I will warn you that if you are bothered by Christian writings or more so, by challenging Christian beliefs, you may not like the book. C.S. Lewis is clearly having a crisis of faith in the book. I have no such Christian beliefs so I was able to look beyond the God references and focus on his emotions and related to why he might be angry at his God.

The book is relatively short (as noted I read it in one night) and can be purchased on Amazon in Kindle or print.

“Tonight all the hells of young grief have opened again; the mad words, the bitter resentment, the fluttering in the stomach, the nightmare unreality, the wallowed-in tears. For in grief nothing ‘stays put’. One keeps on emerging from a phase, but it always recurs. Round and round. Everything repeats. Am I going in circles, or dare I hope I am on a spiral?

But if a spiral, am I going up or down it? How often – will it be for always? – how often will the vast emptiness astonish me like a complete novelty and make me say ‘I never realized my loss till this moment?’ The same leg is cut off time after time. The first plunge of the knife into flesh is felt again and again.

They say ‘The cowards dies many times’; so does the beloved. Didn’t the eagle find a fresh liver to tear in Prometheus ever time it dined?” – C. S. Lewis

1984 Placement Agreement

This is interesting. So much to comment on. Read it all. Papers like this should be shared with the expectant mother before she signs her termination papers.

Wonder if the parents ever found and arranged for father to terminate his rights?

 

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1983 Easter House Ad Yellow Pages

The following image was sent to me by a mother that surrendered her child to Easter House in 1982.  This is a 1983 advert. Sit with that a moment. She saved the yellow pages ad.  I have my own ideas on this (and seemingly benign objects I saved) but I will spare you those thoughts for now. Do feel free to share your own.   Really.  Read it.

Thank you to the mother that provided it to me.

1983 Yellow Page ad for Easter House. Click for larger view

1983 Yellow Page ad for Easter House. Click for larger view