Mother was sent away to give birth alone. She received little or no options counseling. Her only info on adoption was provided by the agency that stood to profit from the sale of her child. Informed consent was limited to an explanation of the final and irrevocable surrender to adoption. She was told she would “get over it”, have other children and move on with her life. Post surrender she experiences something vastly different. Immediately she suffers from nightmares, anxiety and depression. She finds it hard to be around children or see images of children. Relationships are difficult for her to maintain. She finds herself drawn to men that abuse her and is unable to keep a regular job due to her anxiety and depression. Her relationships with family and friends at home are strained. All refuse to discuss her child. Her own mother gets angry at her when she brings up the subject. All she wants is her child back.
Where does she go for help and support? What would you tell her to do? What has worked for you in attempting to “heal” from the loss of your child to adoption? Please be specific. For example, instead of “get therapy” please share what type of therapy you recommend (or not).