Let us chat first family collateral damage, shall we?
Over the coming days I will post a variety of topics. I would love first mother / first father commentary. Feel free to share with friends as well. If you wish to comment but do not want it public, feel free to email me at bluestokking at gmail dot com.
This is purely for informational and sharing purposes. I am presenting at AAC in a few weeks along with other first mothers and the spouse of a first mother. Our session is titled Mitigating and Managing Collateral Damage: Impact of Adoption on 1st Family. While I have spoken or emailed with a few of you, I would love to hear from more that might be willing to share. Your commentary will inform my presentation. Your names/emails will not be used in any way. It is purely for additional insight for me to help make our presentation more impactful.
Some thoughts and questions for consideration:
Pre Birth Counseling – Prior to surrendering your child to adoption, did any counseling (informed consent) you received cover the impact of adoption on your other children – either those you had at the time or those you parented post surrender?
Reunion Relationships – If you are in reunion and you have parented children, do they have a relationship with your child? If not, why not? Does this vary depending on the gender of the children? If they do have a relationship, how has it gone?
Your Relationship with Parented Children – How has reunion impacted your relationship with your parented children? Were they aware of your surrendered child prior to reunion or did they find out when reunion happened?
Your Parenting Style – How has surrendering your child to adoption impacted the way you parented your subsequent children?
Other – Anything else you wish to share regarding the impact adoption and/or adoption reunion had on your parented children?
Thank you for your consideration.