Stumbled across a superb posting on grief today. Hat tip to Susie.
So much to chew on here.
“Some things in life cannot be fixed. They can only be carried. “
“There’s a lot of “take responsibility” platitudes in the personal development space, and they are largely nonsense. People tell others to take responsibility when they don’t want to understand.”
“Because understanding is harder than posturing. Telling someone to “take responsibility” for their loss is a form of benevolent masturbation. It’s the inverse of inspirational porn: it’s sanctimonious porn.”
“Personal responsibility implies that there’s something to take responsibility for. You don’t take responsibility for being raped or losing your child. You take responsibility for how you choose to live in the wake of the horrors that confront you, but you don’t choose whether you grieve. We’re not that smart or powerful. When hell visits us, we don’t get to escape grieving.”
“So if anyone tells you some form of get over it, move on, or rise above, let them go.”
All quotes from the post Everything Does Not Happen for a Reason. I recommend you read it.