“Adoption is not the end of a painful chapter, but the beginning of a lifetime of wondering, worrying, and missing the child. It is a wound that time cannot heal…it is a limbo loss” – (Anderson)
I have recently been inundated with private emails, comments and contact requests from a number of pro adoption individuals. These individuals write me and ask me to promote their how-to-adopt book, help them write a “Dear Birhtmother-Give-Me-Your-Baby” letter, promote their adoption “comedy”, their South American adoption agency, and similar activities. I am startled every time I receive such requests. Are you a spam bot? Have you READ my blog? Are you taking the single mans approach to line dating; meaning the more you throw at the wall the greater the chance something will stick? Do you even know your audience?
Please know that while I appreciate you reading my blog or sharing it (if that is indeed what it is happening) I will never support, promote, or encourage the unnecessary separation of children from their natural families. I am not anti-adoption per se. Rather, I am pro family preservation. Even when a mother does not want to or is unable to care for her child, there is no reason why the child has to be denied the right to know his original name, to see his real birth certificate, and to know who his natural parents, siblings, and grandparents are. There is no reason why natural parents should not be allowed to know whether their child was indeed adopted or not, how their child is doing, what their child’s name is, who is caring for their child, and even if their child is alive or dead.
I believe in fathers rights. I believe in grandparents rights. I believe adoption should be a last resort and even then ties to family of origin should be maintained.
If you are like-minded organization or individual, I will be happy to support and promote your blog, book, movie, organization and more. Feel free to use my contact form to reach out to me. If you are not, please don’t waste your time here.