Comments on: The Value of Knowing http://writingmywrongs.com/2010/01/08/the-value-of-knowing/ Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities. - Voltaire Sat, 04 Feb 2012 16:20:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: suz http://writingmywrongs.com/2010/01/08/the-value-of-knowing/#comment-3939 suz Sun, 10 Jan 2010 00:18:32 +0000 http://writingmywrongs.com/?p=1036#comment-3939 <blockquote cite="#commentbody-4226"> <strong><a href="#comment-4226" rel="nofollow">Denise</a> :</strong> “ There is peace to be had in knowing, even if the news is not good. </blockquote> I agree Denise. And I accept that I have far more than many mothers have. So many are still searching desperately to find out if their children are alive or dead. I count my blessings. Mine is alive and living a decent life in NYC and enjoying her 20s. For that I am glad.

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There is peace to be had in knowing, even if the news is not good.

I agree Denise. And I accept that I have far more than many mothers have. So many are still searching desperately to find out if their children are alive or dead. I count my blessings. Mine is alive and living a decent life in NYC and enjoying her 20s. For that I am glad.

]]> By: Denise http://writingmywrongs.com/2010/01/08/the-value-of-knowing/#comment-3938 Denise Sun, 10 Jan 2010 00:16:39 +0000 http://writingmywrongs.com/?p=1036#comment-3938 Also… it is what it is RIGHT NOW doesn't mean that's what it will always be. I applaud you keeping your heart and options open. There is always the possibility of change. Also… it is what it is RIGHT NOW doesn’t mean that’s what it will always be. I applaud you keeping your heart and options open. There is always the possibility of change.

]]> By: Denise http://writingmywrongs.com/2010/01/08/the-value-of-knowing/#comment-3937 Denise Sun, 10 Jan 2010 00:14:23 +0000 http://writingmywrongs.com/?p=1036#comment-3937 "It is what it is" sounds fatalistic, like giving up in a way. But to me it's more like accepting what is, not obsessing over or fighting with what is out of our control. I don't like it (that is, not being able to change or fix all things), but I try to practice it. Absolutely, knowing is better than not knowing. Especially when it comes to what happened to our children, if they're alive and well or not (even when the news is bad). Also when they (or anyone) pulls away without explanation, what is expected of us, what the rules are with someone or a job or other situation. I've had a rough reunion (now on hold — am I still reunited). But I have no regrets about knowing my son, who he is, what his life was like. There is peace to be had in knowing, even if the news is not good. “It is what it is” sounds fatalistic, like giving up in a way. But to me it’s more like accepting what is, not obsessing over or fighting with what is out of our control. I don’t like it (that is, not being able to change or fix all things), but I try to practice it.

Absolutely, knowing is better than not knowing. Especially when it comes to what happened to our children, if they’re alive and well or not (even when the news is bad). Also when they (or anyone) pulls away without explanation, what is expected of us, what the rules are with someone or a job or other situation.

I’ve had a rough reunion (now on hold — am I still reunited). But I have no regrets about knowing my son, who he is, what his life was like.

There is peace to be had in knowing, even if the news is not good.

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