http://writingmywrongs.com/2010/01/05/i-heard-from-my-daughter/ When a mother is forced to choose between the child and the culture, there is something abhorrently cruel and unconsidered about that culture. A culture that requires harm to one's soul in order to follow the cultures prescriptions is a very sick culture indeed. This 'culture' can be the one a woman lives in, but more damning yet, it can be the one she carries around and complies with within her own mind....." -- Women Who Run With The Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes Fri, 18 May 2012 03:34:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 http://writingmywrongs.com/2010/01/05/i-heard-from-my-daughter/#comment-3913 윤선 Sat, 30 Jan 2010 06:24:25 +0000 http://writingmywrongs.com/?p=1022#comment-3913 As an adoptee, I'm not really sure what I could say to this post. But I hope things go OK for you in the future. Adoption is a really sensitive topic for all those involved, and we all deal with it in the way/s that are most comfortable to us at the time. So I hope one day you and your daughter meet in a place that you're both happy with... As an adoptee, I’m not really sure what I could say to this post. But I hope things go OK for you in the future. Adoption is a really sensitive topic for all those involved, and we all deal with it in the way/s that are most comfortable to us at the time. So I hope one day you and your daughter meet in a place that you’re both happy with…

]]> http://writingmywrongs.com/2010/01/05/i-heard-from-my-daughter/#comment-3912 Suz Wed, 20 Jan 2010 11:39:31 +0000 http://writingmywrongs.com/?p=1022#comment-3912 Liz - Your sticky note is pretty much my daily mantra. I did survive and I remind myself of that daily. While I am deeply saddened at her choices, I do know I will survive (for I already have) and that I must live my life to the greatest extent possible - regardless. I am glad you came to the same conclusion. Hugs to you. Liz – Your sticky note is pretty much my daily mantra. I did survive and I remind myself of that daily. While I am deeply saddened at her choices, I do know I will survive (for I already have) and that I must live my life to the greatest extent possible – regardless. I am glad you came to the same conclusion. Hugs to you.

]]> http://writingmywrongs.com/2010/01/05/i-heard-from-my-daughter/#comment-3911 Liz Wed, 20 Jan 2010 03:30:03 +0000 http://writingmywrongs.com/?p=1022#comment-3911 Suz, just catching up on your blog! As a firstmom, I believe this is a boundary we all dread will be set by our children, but we are also acutely aware that this boundary can be set at any time by our kids no matter what state our reunion may be in at any given time. I have had such a hard time accepting this fact and finally put it on a sticky on my bathroom mirror;"I survived when I did not know anything of what had happened to my children, now I know they are safe, healthy, alive, and capable of making their own choices. I must accept this and live my life in love" I admire your strength and the love you have for yourself and your daughter which allows you to respect her boundaries while taking loving care of your own feelings. I don't know you, Suz, but I stand with you and I've learned so much from reading your blog. Thank you. Hugs. Suz, just catching up on your blog! As a firstmom, I believe this is a boundary we all dread will be set by our children, but we are also acutely aware that this boundary can be set at any time by our kids no matter what state our reunion may be in at any given time. I have had such a hard time accepting this fact and finally put it on a sticky on my bathroom mirror;”I survived when I did not know anything of what had happened to my children, now I know they are safe, healthy, alive, and capable of making their own choices. I must accept this and live my life in love” I admire your strength and the love you have for yourself and your daughter which allows you to respect her boundaries while taking loving care of your own feelings. I don’t know you, Suz, but I stand with you and I’ve learned so much from reading your blog. Thank you. Hugs.

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