“In all of us there is a hunger, marrow deep, to know our heritage – to know who we are and where we came from. Without this enriching knowledge, there is a hollow yearning. No matter what our attainments in life, there is still a vacuum, an emptiness, and the most disquieting loneliness.” – Alex Haley
Remember this post where I stressed over family tree stuffs?
Well, consider this post a continuation.
I finally joined ancestry.com and started my tree. This was done on a bit of a whim after some information regarding my grandmother passed through my inbox. I was curious, once again, about my fathers family history and I went poking on ancestry.
And I set up a tree and connected it to my cousins tree that she developed for my mothers side of the family. Cousins tree traces all the way back to the 1800’s in Scotland and Northern Ireland. Kinda cool.
And I started populating mine with my parents and siblings and what I know of my dads family.
And I stumbled a bit.
Once again, do I put my daughters original name or her amended and legal one?
I chose her original. This was not done to invalidate her current name or known existence but rather in respect of that existence. Since we still have little to no contact, I am assuming I am not permitted to acknowledge her amended name and family.
I struggled with how to note her status. I haven’t figured out if ancestry has a way to note adoption. Does anyone know? For now I put in her birth name and date and location.
I also disliked that by listing her I had to list her father as unknown. He is not unknown. He is very much known. How do I list a non spousal but father of a child of mine? In a life event? Do I also populate what I know of his family? Or is that inappropriate?
I find it all rather fascinating and yet at the same time massively triggering.
:: Off to continue piecing together the broken limbs of my family tree as best as I can. Hoping I dont get too many emotional splinters from the branches. ::