Sometimes one creates a dynamic impression by saying something, and sometimes one creates as significant an impression by remaining silent. – Dalai Lama
I am a Jezebel addict. Have been for a while.
This article from today appealed to me for a number of reasons, the least of which is that I am hardcore pro-choice.
The last paragraph (excerpted below) is magnificently insightful. For me, the exact same sentiments apply to surrending my child to adoption.
"That is to say that, by not telling the people who love and care about you — or at least getting counseling — you are actually feeding your own perception that what you have done is wrong, or unforgivable or terrible. And it's not. Like too many things (rape, incest, domestic violence), the less people talk about what has happened to them, the more they feel stigmatized and alone in what happened to them or the decisions they made. And all that does is helps the anti-abortion forces organize against letting other women make the same decisions." – Speaking Out About An Abortion Can Be Harder Than Getting One, by Megan, Jezebel.com
My daughter and many others in my life greatly prefer me to remain silent about what happened to me, to her, and to others victimized or brokered by Kurtz.
I haven't. I wont.
And the above paragraph explains why.
Thank you Jezebel.