Double Standards

Hmm, while doing some research for another project, I stumbled across this old article on jezebel.

Infertile women dont want to share their embryos but they can expect other women to share their children via adoption? And I use the term "share" very loosely.

"According to the Times, "53 percent did not want to donate their embryos to other couples, mostly because they did not want someone else bringing up their children, or did not want their own children to worry about encountering an unknown sibling someday." – IVF Patients To Other Infertile Females: Keep Your Paws Off Our Embryos

Very, um, curious.

4 Thoughts.

  1. You are assuming that infertile women are a homogeneous group of women. Most couples who are experiencing infertility pursue further infertility treatment, not adoption. In fact, most infertile women do not want to adopt and the percentage of infertile couples who do adopt is still a pretty small percentage of the overall group (there is a study that was done of 1,000+ infertile couples that showed only 6% went on to adopt a child). Go to any infertility support group online and you won’t find but a handful of women who are interested in adoption. Most infertile couples pursue aggressive infertility treatment; there are many many options nowadays. The couples who go so far as to have frozen embryos available for adoption are NOT the couples who are adopting other peoples’ children.

  2. Is that what I am inferring? Hmm. Perhaps. I wish the article had gone further and given more stats on what percentage of the 53% would consider adoption. THAT would be interesting.
    I still find the statement rather curious.

  3. I’m not sure what websites Michelle is referring to, because pretty much every RESOLVE chapter (former DC RESOLVE president here) has an adoption education and support committee.
    When I was in the throes of infertility treatment, adoption was seen by my infertile peers as a resolution to our infertility, another treatment option even.
    Athough I didn’t consider donating embryos, I did consider donating eggs. My emotions at that time were so complex, stretching from my own aching desire to become pregnant to a belief that if I couldn’t conceive, I should at least help someone else who couldn’t. Those emotions were totally overwhelming, almost out-of-body in their intensity, yet today don’t feel like they could have been mine.
    They definitely influenced my attitudes about adoption then, which until our son arrived, largely pushed mothers and fathers to the side in favor of my own interests.
    I am iincredibly ashamed to admit the above, but I do so to give readers an idea of how far the mind will go astray to serve its own interests.

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