The direct use of force is such a poor solution to any problem, it is generally employed only by small children and large nations. – Dave Friedman
A friend of mine is getting harassing nasty messages from her child's adoptive mother. My friend's response approach to date has been to either a) not answer or b) answer kindly and attempt to defuse, redirect, not engage with the angry adoptive mother.
Adoptive mother is upset that her adult adopted son has been found and is having an adult relationship with his first mother. To date, my friend has not told her son how his adoptive mother is mistreating her.
I wonder if she should copy her son on her responses to his adoptive mother so he can see how a) she is behaving and b) so he can see how his adoptive mother is treating his first mother (which may inadvertently cause the first mother to pull back or change her relationship with her son and he wont even know it).
My belief, perhaps erroneous, is that she should respond as kindly as possible and cc her son. He is an adult. However, this is not my situation, never has been my situation and I speak from my own position only. I don't like triangles and I always advocate honesty and direct confrontations. But again, thats me.
I wonder what others think. Select a poll option or leave a comment.