"Honesty: The best of all the lost arts” – Mark Twain
The truth from an infertile, presumably adoptive or prospective adoptive mothers keyboard:
"Anti-adoption advocates hate infertile couples in
general, seeing us as the problem. What they fail to realize is that
many, many infertile couples have NO desire at all to adopt. For us,
adoption would only be a VERY LAST RESORT.
That’s right, birthmothers – your child would be a last resort for
us, whether you like that or not. Your child is not the great prize you
may think he is. What most of us want most is our own biological child!
Thank God for advances in reproductive medicine. IVF success rates
are improving all the time. I predict in the future there will be a lot
fewer people adopting or fostering children, because they will be able
to have their own child"
Read more at Anti-Adoption. The entire post is here.
Lori Tay might want to be careful. The Agencies that are making buckets of money off of baby selling might not appreciate her honesty.
Conversely, as a mother, I greatly appreciate it. Of course, it comes a little too late. I wish I had been told this 22 years ago. Perhaps expectant mothers today could read this.
Furthermore, nearly every adoptive adult I know talks about being second best, KNOWING that they were their adoptive parents last choice. I am sure they appreciate that finally someone admits what they knew all along.
Seriously, Lori Tay, honesty is the best policy. Kudos to you for having the gonads to say what so many adoptive parents avoid like the plague.