"Well behaved women rarely make history" – Laurel Thatcher Ulrich
I think Jenna was in my head today.
"I accept the responsibility for my pregnancy, for not
being strong enough to say, “No, I’m keeping her,” when I was faced
with negativity from my family regarding my financial state and for not
believing in myself enough to realize my potential as a parent. But I
will not take the blame for believing what I was told was the truth and
the whole story. I am not a mind reader. In fact, when I try to guess
at people’s intention, I usually end up making a bigger mess! I am
human. Things I did and decided contributed to the placement. Things
other people did and decided also contributed to the placement.
No human lives in a vacuum. Personal responsibility is
one thing. But when agencies aren’t being held accountable, I’m
wondering where their responsibility lies? Why don’t they have to be
responsible for the truth? Why do I have to take responsibility for
things that were beyond my scope? Why do I have to take responsibility
when I was lied to? Where is that line exactly? I know it’s a gray
line. But when you trust someone and something to be honest with you
and they lie… where is that line of fault? If my Husband cheats on me
and tells me that he is faithful and I believe him… is it my fault when
he leaves me for the other woman?" Read the full post at the authors site – Chronicles of Munchkinland
Keep on talking, Jenna. We will change things. We must. We must do it for Munchkin, for my daughter M, for our sons and for the women that will bear their children.
We will do it.
Because with moms like you, and Nic and Claud and others around, I certainly do.