"To adopt consciously is to understand that the joy of your family is
built on someone’s loss. It is to acknowledge the beauty of your
children is the result of someone’s pain. It is to know every day that
what you have and feel is the result of something going wrong.
is the thing. That someone – the someone with the pain and the loss –
they’re not random. They don’t just happen to be someone who doesn’t
happen to be you. They don’t just happen to be someone who doesn’t
happen to be me. To be forced to give up a child is a sign that
something went very wrong in someone’s life. Something that didn’t go
wrong in my life."
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