Visuals and Validation

Saw a first mom meme floating around. Thought I would post a pic of me. Though most of my regular readers know who I am or have seen me elsewhere. But yeah, below, thats me and my lovely mug. I think you can click the thumbnail for a full view.

I wish I could show you how much my daughter looks like me but well, its not exactly HIPPA, but its like ARPPA (Adoption Reunion Privacy and Portability Act or something like that). But yeah, she resembles me a great deal. Eyes, hair, facial features. She is outrageously thin and tall and i am short and round so its there we differ. She would do great as a fashion model and I could have worked wonders modelling for Peter Paul Rubens.  Regardless, we are both hotties. You will have to trust me where she is concerned.

Speaking of hotties, a friend wrote me from Europe. She has known me almost ten years and I told her about 8 years ago about my daughter. She recently started reading this blog and I just had to share the thoughts she shared with me today. I suspect other first moms will be touched as well.

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Hey girl!
How ya doing? Thanx for sharing all those pics – do you really have that much snow? we didn’t get any, at least not where I live, only some in the mountains.  it’s much too warm – global warming I guess… you evil, polluting americans!! i’ve been reading your adoption blog with interest, thank’s for sharing. i’d like to say that I can relate, that I know how you feel, but I CAN’T. how could I, not even having children. how could I tell you what to do say think feel?! that is all so distant to me. I tried to put my self in your position, tried to imagine what it must have been like for a young girl having to go through all this – all by herself!!
but that is something too big to even imagine – what would I have done, how would I have felt, whenever I try to imagine all that, my mind goes blank. the worst part
(for me) is that it’s not over and done with, that you have to live with this for the rest of your life, the loss, the regret.
that’s a side of you I never got to know, you sound so different from the suz that I know. how hard it must have been without having anyone to understand, to share your feelings. when you told me at the diner ("athena" – I still have that picture in my mind) that you have a daughter that you gave up for adoption, I was shocked at first. I wasn’t sure if that was something I wanted to know, to be bothered with. It never even crossed my mind that you could regret your actions, to me, adoption always seemed like a win/win situation. so thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings and for broadening my horizon. I won’t say I can relate but I’m with you.
All my love,"

7 Thoughts.

  1. “ARPPA (Adoption Reunion Privacy and Portability Act or something” I love that, the way you put it. Actually I hate it.
    Very nice letter too. It’s wonderful to have friends outside the adoption (NOT triad)let’s say “adoption web” appreciate your sharing what it is.
    ” I was shocked at first. I wasn’t sure if that was something I wanted to know, to be bothered with” It’s nice to have people that are willing to be bothered like this. They are the ones worth having in one’s life

  2. Love seeing you Suz!!!
    Thanks for posting your pic. Just gorgeous – as I’d imagined!!
    Your friends words are wonderful – especially….
    “It never even crossed my mind that you could regret your actions, to me, adoption always seemed like a win/win situation.”
    These words are so very true of so many not affected directly by adoption. I have also recently shared my blog with some friends – and they have been simply blown away by the depth of pain that is within me – which I’ve always managed to hide. They too had NO IDEA about the losses involved.
    Thanks for sharing.
    Hugs, Poss. xxx

  3. Jenna and Margie – Ha ha on the hair. Its kind of a hobby of mine. It changes constantly in color, length, style. But yeah, thanks.
    : )

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