Letters for Them

“Letters for Them is an open invitation for all adoptees to write and submit letters to birth parent(s), natural parent(s), birth/natural families, [preferred term]. The idea is that this be a pseudo-location to send these otherwise unsendable letters.” – Letters for Them

Have you heard of the above site?  Go check it out and let me know your thoughts.

I have mixed feelings on it.  As one of the “them”, I dislike the title.  Sad we are the other, the them, the her, the him, the it.  That being said, I can see some value for adoptees to have a space to share these letters to “them” and do feel there is much to be gained in the public understanding adoptee feelings about “them”.

The site is a project of an adoptee studying at RISD.  Read more about her here or visit the letters page.

A Life Let Go

Hat tip to Susie at Finding Christopher for bringing my awareness to the book A Life Let Go: A Memoir and Five Birth Mother Stories of Closed Adoption by Patricia Florin.

Excerpt from Amazon:

Closed adoption, heralded as the answer to the problem of unplanned pregnancy, shows its other side in A Life Let Go, A Memoir and Five Birth Mother Stories of Closed Adoption. These women tell how they experienced unplanned pregnancy in the restrictiveness of the last decades of the twentieth century. All gave up a child in closed adoption—the only option—understanding they would never see them again, a dark contract made under great duress. “

I ordered it from Barnes and Noble.  Will let you know my thoughts soon.

Have you read it?

Hell to the YES, Julie!

Speaking as an adoptee, I believe that the physical and emotional life of my mother should have been considered just as important, if not more, as that of the fetus growing in her uterus that ended up being me. Losing your newborn baby to adoption is extremely traumatic for a parent. Helping a mother parent her newborn, if this is what she truly wants to do, is much more compassionate and “pro-life” than scaring and shaming the mother into “giving her baby a better life through adoption.” – Julie Stromberg

Read Julie’s entire post at Lost Daughters.

Adoption is Not The Only Option