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Do you think it is true that if you still cry when you tell your adoption story that you are not “healed”?
Was musing with a few friends on separate occassions about this.
I shared that no matter how hard I try, when I speak publicly, I choke up and stammer and cry. I have a love hate relationship with this. Part of me is just plain old annoyed that the emotions take over cuz I want to sound all credible and smarty pants. Then another part of the psycho gemini that I am feels that it is good, okay, and natural to cry. It shows the depth of the pain and trauma. This is something I want people to see.
Yet, I reflect on a woman I met at the A Girl Like Her Screening in Hartford a few weeks back. After the Q & A she came up to me, remarked about my sharing and then said something like “so obvious that you are still not healed due to your crying”. Part of me was like “WTF, seriously?” Yet a few days later another friend brought this up to me.
I strongly reject the people who tell us how to heal, when, why, under what circumstances and what the benefits are of doing so mighty quick. (Don’t even take me there unless you are prepared to tell me that you also tell a rape victim that she needs to just get ovvuh her sorry ass self..)
Yet even still, I wonder, will the day come that I don’t cry when I tell my story or talk publicly about it. Is the lack of crying a sign of some sort of growth that I have yet to achieve?
If you go to see, bring tissues. And come back here and share your thoughts with me. I am keeping to myself to avoid spoilers (sorry friends on my facebook) but would love to know your thoughts.
Be sure to note on page 4 how quickly they can get babies. Read all photos in order. I have placed them from page 1 through 4.
Interesting that the agency placing the child also performs the home study AND gets paid for both the study AND the placement. Hmnmmm.
The only proof I have of my daughters birth. As noted in small print, it is not a legal birth certificate. It came with the package of pictures taken by the hospital. Despite the fact we are now “reunited” I am not entitled to a copy of her original that lists my name. I would like a copy. Only she is allowed to get it (now that Illinois has changed their laws). I once asked her to get it for me, told her I would pay for any costs. She never responded.
I received this letter from my Easter House caseworker, Colleen Rogers, in July 1986 not quite three months after my daughter was born and surrendered.
Photo (and many more) taken by Easter House adoptee. See more of her work on ehbabes.com
There was an Easter House baby pipeline from IL to Northern NJ throughout most of the 80s. So many of the adoptees I know were adopted into that area it cannot be coincidence. I have wanted for years to find out the referring source. I have yet to map all the data. I have quite a bit. This organization appears to be connected as it has appeared in several families.
This is interesting. So much to comment on. Read it all. Papers like this should be shared with the expectant mother before she signs her termination papers.
Wonder if the parents ever found and arranged for father to terminate his rights?